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耳鬓厮磨

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1. Basic Information

  • Pinyin: ěr bìn sī mó
  • English Translation: Ears and temples rubbing together (being intimately close)
  • Idiom Composition: 「耳」（Ear）＋「鬓」（Temples (the hair on the sides of the face)）＋「厮」（Mutually or together）＋「磨」（To rub or touch against）
  • Meaning: A state where people are so close that their ears and the hair on their temples touch. It describes the deep intimacy of childhood sweethearts growing up together or the tender, constant companionship of lovers.

2. Detailed Meaning and Nuances

「耳鬓厮磨」 contains the following nuances:

  • Physical and Emotional Proximity: While it literally refers to physical contact, it figuratively emphasizes the psychological intimacy of having shared a long history together.
  • Childhood Companionship: It is frequently paired with the phrase 从小 (cóng xiǎo), meaning 'since childhood,' to describe the inseparable nature of childhood friends.
  • Romantic Nuance: The term carries a warmer, more romantic undertone than simple friendship, often evoking the sweet, private moments between a couple.

3. Usage

「耳鬓厮磨」 is mainly used in the following contexts:

  • Childhood Sweethearts: Used to describe the inseparable bond of people who have grown up together since they were very young.
    • Example:「他们俩从小耳鬓厮磨，一起长大，感情非常深厚。」
      （The two of them have been intimately close since childhood, and their bond is incredibly deep.)
  • Romantic Intimacy: Used to depict lovers spending sweet, private time in close proximity.
    • Example:「这对恋人整天耳鬓厮磨，一刻也不愿意分开。」
      （This couple is constantly together in tender intimacy all day long, never wanting to be apart for a second.)
  • Metaphorical Immersion: A literary personification used to describe being deeply involved or 'close' to an object or hobby, such as books.
    • Example:「他整日与书本耳鬓厮磨，沉浸在知识的海洋里。」
      （He spends his days deeply immersed in his books, soaking in the sea of knowledge.)

Additional Examples:

  1. 回想起当年我们耳鬓厮磨的日子，真是让人怀念。
    （Recalling those days when we were intimately close, I feel truly nostalgic.）
  2. 虽然他们没有结婚，但多年的耳鬓厮磨早已让他们如同家人一般。
    （Though not married, years of living in close companionship have made them like family.）
  3. 那种耳鬓厮磨的纯真爱情，在现代社会似乎越来越少见了。
    （That kind of pure and intimate love seems increasingly rare in modern society.）

4. Cultural Background and Notes

  • This idiom appears in classic literature such as the Qing Dynasty novel Dream of the Red Chamber (红楼梦) and Shen Fu's (沈复) Six Records of a Floating Life (浮生六记). In Dream of the Red Chamber (红楼梦), it is used to describe the close-knit upbringing of Jia Baoyu (贾宝玉) and his companions.
  • While the phrase 厮磨 (sī mó), meaning 'rubbing against each other,' might sound literal, it is a beautiful and positive expression. It prioritizes the spiritual closeness and the accumulation of shared time over purely physical connotations.

5. Similar and Opposite Idioms

6. Summary

耳鬓厮磨 (ěr bìn sī mó) literally describes ears and temples rubbing against each other, symbolizing extreme physical and emotional proximity. It is a poetic way to describe the bond of those who have grown up together or lovers who spend every moment in each other's company. It emphasizes a deep, long-term connection built on shared time and mutual affection.

Idiom Essay

ěr bìn sī mó
耳鬓厮磨
Intimate Closeness
wǒ men我们cháng常shuō说，rén人yǔ与rén人zhī jiān之间，tōng cháng通常xū yào需要bǎo chí保持yì diǎn一点“ān quán安全jù lí距离”。

We often say that people usually need to maintain a certain "safe distance" from one another.

dàn但zài在mǒu xiē某些tè bié特别de的guān xì关系lǐ里，zhè zhǒng这种jù lí距离huì会wán quán完全xiāo shī消失。

But in some special relationships, this distance disappears completely.

zhōng wén中文lǐ里，yǒu有yí gè一个fēi cháng非常xì nì细腻de的chéng yǔ成语，yòng lái用来xíng róng形容zhè zhǒng这种qīn mì wú jiàn亲密无间、jī hū几乎méi yǒu没有fèng xì缝隙de的zhuàng tài状态，jiào叫“ěr bìn sī mó耳鬓厮磨”。

In Chinese, there is a very delicate idiom used to describe this state of seamless intimacy, called 耳鬓厮磨.

zhè ge这个cí词de的huà miàn gǎn画面感jí极qiáng强。

This phrase creates a very strong visual image.

“ěr耳”，shì是ěr duǒ耳朵；“bìn鬓”，shì是liǎn jiá脸颊liǎng páng两旁de的tóu fà头发；ér而“sī mó厮磨”，yì si意思shì是hù xiāng互相mó cā摩擦、hù xiāng互相yī kào依靠。

耳 means ears; 鬓 refers to the hair on the sides of the face; and 厮磨 means to rub against or lean on each other.

qǐng请xiǎng xiàng想象yī xià一下，liǎng两gè个rén人de的liǎn脸yào要kào靠dé得yǒu有duō多jìn近，yí gè一个rén人de的ěr duǒ耳朵cái才huì会pèng dào碰到lìng另yí gè一个rén人de的bìn fà鬓发？

Imagine how close two people's faces must be for one person's ear to touch the other's hair at the temples?

zhè这tōng cháng通常bú shì不是zài在xíng róng形容liǎng两gè个chéng nián rén成年人de的lǐ mào礼貌wò shǒu握手，yě也bù不jǐn jǐn仅仅shì是pǔ tōng普通péng yǒu朋友de的yōng bào拥抱。

This usually doesn't describe a polite handshake between two adults, nor is it just a hug between ordinary friends.

tā它wǎng wǎng往往yòng lái用来xíng róng形容nà zhǒng那种cóng xiǎo从小yì qǐ一起zhǎng dà长大de的wán bàn玩伴，yě也jiù shì就是wǒ men我们cháng常shuō说de的“qīng méi zhú mǎ青梅竹马”；huò zhě或者shì是zhèng zài正在rè liàn热恋zhōng中de的ài rén爱人。

It is often used to describe childhood playmates who grew up together, what we often call "childhood sweethearts," or lovers in the heat of passion.

bǐ rú比如，liǎng两gè个hái zi孩子còu凑zài在yì qǐ一起kàn看tóng yī同一běn本xiǎo rén shū小人书，tóu头pèng碰zhe着tóu头，zhè这jiù shì就是“ěr bìn sī mó耳鬓厮磨”；huò zhě或者，liàn rén恋人zhī jiān之间dī shēng低声shuō说zhe着qiāo qiāo huà悄悄话，bù xiǎng不想ràng让dì sān第三gè个rén人tīng jiàn听见，nà zhǒng那种qīn nì亲昵de的zhuàng tài状态，yě也shì是“ěr bìn sī mó耳鬓厮磨”。

For example, two children huddled together reading the same picture book, heads touching—that is 耳鬓厮磨; or lovers whispering secrets, not wanting a third person to hear—that intimate state is also 耳鬓厮磨.

zhè ge这个chéng yǔ成语zuì最dòng rén动人de的dì fāng地方，qí shí其实bù不zài yú在于“dòng zuò动作”，ér而zài yú在于tā它àn shì暗示de的“xìn rèn信任”。

The most moving part of this idiom is not actually the "action," but the "trust" it implies.

zhǐ yǒu只有dāng当liǎng gè两个rén人wán quán完全xiè xià卸下le了suǒ yǒu所有de的fáng bèi防备，bù zài不再bǎ把duì fāng对方dàng chéng当成wài rén外人，cái才huì会yǔn xǔ允许bǐ cǐ彼此kào靠dé得zhè me这么jìn近，jìn近dào到kě yǐ可以tīng jiàn听见hū xī呼吸，jìn近dào到kě yǐ可以gǎn shòu感受dào到tǐ wēn体温。

Only when two people have completely let down their guard and no longer treat each other as outsiders will they allow themselves to be so close—close enough to hear each other breathe, close enough to feel each other's body heat.

zài在xiàn dài现代shēng huó生活zhōng中，wǒ men我们xí guàn习惯le了yòng用shǒu jī手机dǎ zì打字jiāo liú交流，xí guàn习惯le了bǎo chí保持lǐ mào礼貌de的jù lí距离。

In modern life, we are used to communicating by typing on phones and maintaining a polite distance.

zhèng正yīn wèi因为zhè yàng这样，“ěr bìn sī mó耳鬓厮磨”zhè zhǒng这种dài带zhe着wēn dù温度de的qīn mì亲密，cái才xiǎn de显得gé wài格外zhēn guì珍贵。

Because of this, the warm intimacy of 耳鬓厮磨 feels especially precious.

tā它tí xǐng提醒wǒ men我们，zhēn zhèng真正de的gǎn qíng感情，bù jǐn不仅shì是xīn lǐ心里de的guà niàn挂念，yǒu shí hòu有时候，yě也shì是yī zhǒng一种shí shí zài zài实实在在de的、yuàn yì愿意xiāng hù相互yī kào依靠de的wēn nuǎn温暖。

It reminds us that true feelings are not just thoughts in the heart, but sometimes a tangible warmth of being willing to lean on each other.

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